The most difficult part about chatting with anyone new is finding right level of attention to give someone.
Some people are very responsive while others are just... kind of quiet.
I know I need to be more observant about that and I need to learn how to adapt. Some people will find too many messages to be annoying or clingy while... the opposite will convey a lack of interest. I don't think I ever found someone where I didn't message enough. The problem is whenever I think I click with and our chat rate and styles seem to match I just get into it and think yay! The problem is I think even if someone is excited and interested my persistence eventually wears them down and the interest burns up really quickly.
Some people are very responsive while others are just... kind of quiet.
I know I need to be more observant about that and I need to learn how to adapt. Some people will find too many messages to be annoying or clingy while... the opposite will convey a lack of interest. I don't think I ever found someone where I didn't message enough. The problem is whenever I think I click with and our chat rate and styles seem to match I just get into it and think yay! The problem is I think even if someone is excited and interested my persistence eventually wears them down and the interest burns up really quickly.
And basically I have cornered myself into "the game" you know the crap where you can't reply right away or do this and that. I think I am an unwilling participant in that terrible game. I don't want to play. If I chat a lot and I start chats a lot then it should have meaning. If I don't message first or the chats don't go anywhere then it should have the opposite meaning. That's as much as I am willing to participate in the game, if I opted out of it completely then I would need to bluntly express thoughts and I do not think you would want to hear that.
