Experience to Gain Experience

Fortunately I have some work experience now and I am referring to other forms of experience.

I find it kind of surprising how relationships practically require past experience but it makes sense. Normal people begin to build experience and make mistakes in their teens so by the time they are my age they would at least have some skills.  What I have is a collection of knowledge, like a science experiment searching for a select set of observable traits which fall in line with certain required criteria.  I am also aware of potential experimental methods which I have never tested but can be used to test certain things such as limits. The problem is real life doesn't always exhibit the traits you expect.

Girls have certain expectations, some are more lenient than others.  There are some little things that I can change.  I have previously stated that it would not be possible to change my personality.  If they wanted an adventurous or outgoing guy it is impossible for me to fake it.  Since that's the case I will pass those and keep looking. Some have an expectation for action - not that but an assertive stance "let's go meet for boba and catch a movie after" after a few messages or something.  Clear goals and planning and that type of behavior is obviously driven by the outgoing and assertive type personality which I don't have. I prefer to go for a friendly approach, take the friend zone gamble and hope for something after a good friendship is established. I actually don't know if that works; at this point in time it might be the most retarded "logical" approaches I have ever considered.  I'm single and it has completely failed to work for me for the last few attempts.

I know there are some things I can do and some things I can change.  If I was able to read people better then I would have more confidence.  If I was more creative with goals or destinations I would throw it out there. One friend told me the problem is I am searching for a girlfriend when I should actually be searching for a normal friend; a normal friend who I could be social with to build social skills.  Another friend I have hung out with a few times shared some of her expectations - a majority of which I think is agreeable among females and a several instances where my friend to something more logic will entirely backfire on me.

To add to the problems, I might still have some issues defining the difference between "just friends" and something more.  Shouldn't your significant other be your best friend as well? Is there anything bad in having multiple attractive friends? Lust is an element that can be with both friends and significant others, not saying you should act on it.  I guess the only thing left is the concept of commitment and the desire to be exclusive.  I'll just shut up and stick with the bubbly mental image of a happy couple. -_- I write this as the "DTR" song (no lyrics I never remember lyrics but the concept) cycles my head.

I am just a confused person. I'm probably looking for clues that do not exist and hoping for interest that does not exist. Sigh.